Love Advice From St. Pete Couples Who’ve Stood the Test of Time

With the hectic holiday season behind us and Valentine’s Day on the horizon, it is a perfect time to slow down and contemplate our romantic relationships. I have always been in awe of couples in longterm partnerships who still have smiles on their faces and love in their hearts. What are the keys to relationships that span decades?

I asked a few folks who have been married for more than 25 years what love and relationship advice they have to offer. Their wisdom is astounding.

By the way, all names have been changed.

Amy, married 38 years, on the importance of shared experiences: “Make memories (go places and do things together) and talk about them. This strengthens a couple’s bond. Your partner may be the only person who shares some of your important memories.”

Frank, married 50 years, on individual communication styles: “Figure out the best way to communicate with your partner when you are angry. For us, it is over the telephone. Texting definitely doesn’t work for us.”

Christine, married 49 years, on letting things go: “Often forgive yourself and your spouse, especially as you get older. Be willing to just go with the flow sometimes and let the other person be ‘right.’”

Ellie, married 27 years, on respect: “Respect for each other is key. Being affectionate and caring towards each other, no matter the circumstance, also goes a long way.”

Betty, married 40 years, on the importance of friendships: “Keep your friends. Don’t expect your partner to be everything to you and fill your every need. Your partner may not be able to comfort you or advise you in every circumstance or share your every interest. Even soulmates need friends.”

Andrew, married 42 years, on respecting each other’s space: “Sharing household duties and giving one another “space” has been very important over the years. This is going to sound trite, but we moved from being “in love” to loving one another. I know it’s corny but I believe it is essential for a marriage.”

Jerry, married 45 years, on choosing the right partner: “When picking a partner, so the relationship has a chance of lasting, pick someone with complementary traits. If you are outgoing, find someone who is less so. Above all else, try not to change your partner. Enjoy that you are different.”

Often the most useful relationship advice is not romantic, but practical. Romance alone does not make a relationship stand the test of time. What advice would you offer those who are looking for a strong, long-term partnership?

I hope you enter this new decade with a sense of love, excitement, respect, and admiration for all of your relationships. May they grow ever deeper and more tender.